Larry
and Jo Ann were an ordinary couple. They lived in an ordinary house on an
ordinary street. Like other ordinary couples, they struggled to make ends meet
and to do the right things for their children.
They
were ordinary in yet another way – they had their squabbles. Much of their
conversation concerned what was wrong in their marriage and who was to blame.
Until
one day, when a most extraordinary event took place.
“You
know, Jo Ann, I’ve got a magic chest of drawers. Every time I open them,
they’re full of socks and underwear,” Larry said. “I want to thank you for
filling them all these years.”
Jo
Ann stared at her husband over the top of her glasses. “What do you want,
Larry?”
“Nothing.
I just want you to know I appreciate those magic drawers.”
This
wasn’t the first time Larry had done something odd, so Jo Ann pushed the
incident out of her mind until a few days later.
“Jo
Ann, thank you for recording so many correct check numbers in the ledger this month.
You put down the right number 15 out of 16 times. That’s a record.”
Disbelieving
what she had heard, Jo Ann looked up from her mending: “Larry, you’re always
complaining about my recording the wrong check numbers. Why stop now?”
“No
reason. I just wanted you to know I appreciate the effort you’re making.”
Jo
Ann shook her head and went back to her mending. “What’s gotten into him?” she
mumbled to herself.
Nevertheless,
the next day when Jo Ann wrote a check at the grocery store, she glanced at her
check numbers to confirm that she had put down the right check number. “Why do
I suddenly care about those dumb check numbers? She asked herself.
She
tried to disregard the incident, but Larry’s strange behavior intensified.
“Jo
Ann, that was a great dinner,” he said one evening. “I appreciate all your
effort. Why, in the past 15 years I’ll bet you’ve fixed over 14,00 meals for me
and the kids.”
Then
“Gee, Jo Ann, the house looks spiffy. You’ve really worked hard to get it
looking so good.” And even “Thanks, Jo Ann, for just being you. I really enjoy
your company.”
Jo
Ann was growing worried. “Where’s the
sarcasm, the criticism? she wondered.
Her
fears that something peculiar was happening to her husband were confirmed by 16
year-old Shelly, who complained, “Dad’s gone bonkers, Mom. He just told me I
looked nice. With all this makeup and these sloppy clothes, he still said it.
That’s not Dad, Mom. What’s wrong with him?”
Whatever
was wrong, Larry didn’t get over it. Day in and day out he continued focusing
on the positive. Over the weeks, Jo Ann grew more used to her mate’s unusual
behavior, and occasionally even gave him a grudging “Thank you.” She prided
herself on taking it all in stride, until one day something so peculiar
happened, she became completely discombobulated:
“I
want you to take a break,” Larry said. “I am going to do the dishes. So please
take your hands off that frying pan and leave the kitchen.”
(Long,
long pause.) “Thank you, Larry. Thank you very much!”
Jo
Ann’s step was now a little lighter, her self-confidence higher, and once in a
while she hummed. She didn’t seem to have as many blue moods much anymore. “I
rather like Larry’s new behavior,” she thought.
That
would be the end of the story except one day another most extraordinary event
took place. This time it was Jo Ann who spoke.
“Larry,”
she said, “I want to thank you for going to work and providing for us all these
years. I don’t think I’ve ever told you how much I appreciate it.”
Larry
has never revealed the reason for his drastic change of behavior no matter how
hard Jo Ann has pushed for an answer, and so it will likely remain one of
life’s mysteries. But it’s one I’m thankful to live with.
You
see, I am Jo Ann.
by Jo
Ann Larsen
Desert News (February 10, 1985)
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I'm so glad you shared that old story. I read it many years ago and had not thought of it until seeing your post. There are many lessons therein.
ReplyDeleteHermosa la historia y muy bellas las fotos, realmente preciosas!
ReplyDeleteUn fuerte abrazo.
beautiful.
ReplyDeleteWe change when others around us change, and vice-versa. My father with whom I never got along, told me once in tears after I got married: "I have changed because I have seen that you have changed." He died not long after that.
ReplyDeleteWe are all we have, yet inside of us is a force beyond our understanding. But it becomes clear when we act upon it, then all is revealed. Thank you for this story dear Sylvia, and your PHOTOS ARE AMAZING!!!!!!!!!
Such a beautiful story, accompanied by beautiful photos and messages to take to heart...
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful post in every way!
ReplyDeleteThanks to Elizabeth for sharing this! I love it and the photography is lovely.
ReplyDeleteIf you could just see me now with the tears running down my face dear Sylvia. This was a gift my dear!!! I am grateful everyday for the love that my husband and I share and how wonderfully extraordinarily ordinary it is. Today this post has reiterated how blessed I am, so thank you!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photos---beautiful story!
sending hugs for Valentine's Day...
Thank you for sharing the great story of love and the wonderful fun photos. We all need to appreciate the simple everyday things we take so much for granted. I'm so fortunate, my husband is so kind to everyone, no matter what the circumstances. I sometimes pray to have his patience and understanding. Happy Valentines Day to You and Yours.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the sweet story about the poweful affect gratitude and kindness has people we live with.
ReplyDeleteGail
What a delightful article and it is a reminder to me how important it is to show gratitude. The pictures are lovely, you are a wonderful photographer.
ReplyDeleteBless you dear heart. Thank you for coming to visit and our stories are written on earth and read in heaven. I believe that. HUGS! Anita
ReplyDeleteElegant photos and beautiful story! So often we take our family members for granted and forget to compliment them for the everyday things they do. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteOh no...I can't see what I'm typing...my eyes are full of tears... :) Thank you, dear sister, for this beautiful dose of love.
ReplyDeleteIt really is so simple, isn't? But like the sweet commenter above states...taking those close to you for granted is all too easy...and we must tend to our relationship and personal "gardens" lovingly each and every day.
Thank you, darling Sylvia, for such a poignant post.
Not to mention the EXQUISITE photographs... :)
You are a blessing, and I thank you so much for coming over to visit me. I know what you mean regarding the Opening Ceremonies...as delightful as most of it was, other parts were hard to watch...
Sending much LOVE to you,
- Irina
Beautiful story and photos! The story reminds me of the movie Fireproof ~ a good movie for all married couples.
ReplyDeleteCarolyn
I enjoyed reading your story Sylvia! Beautiful photographs!!!
ReplyDeleteHave a lovely week!
Madelief x
Oh that is wonderful. Have you seen the new movie called About Time. It reminds me of this. Everyday can be extraordinary if you just look at it that way.
ReplyDeleteSherry
I find this a very sweet and precious story, I found you from The Charm of Home; I love to read something so uplifting and sweet. Really all our days can be extraordinary and not ordinary, if we choose LOVE and Gratefulness!
ReplyDeleteBlessings, Roxy
Hello Silvija, I am over from dear Irina's blog. Oh my what a story you have posted...how very beautiful!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet reminder to
ReplyDeletelet those we love know who
much we appreciate them....
And for me, to let YOU know
how much I appreciate your
beautiful spirit, words and photos!
xo Suzanne
I'm so glad to find your blog and you're such a good photographer!
ReplyDeleteJust popping in to wish you Happy Spring, dear sister!
ReplyDeleteHope all is well with you...
Much love,
- Irina
Beautiful flowers and photographs. What kind of camera do you use? I'm on the search for a good one!
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